Years ago, I learned that creating empty space allows ideas to flourish. In design, margin draws the eye to the core message, giving the mind space to absorb it without feeling overwhelmed. Simply put, margin clears out the busyness. This same principle applies to our lives.

One day, I was searching for a visual to capture the concept of margin. Walking around the Well’s property, I passed the Peace Room, where I saw someone working on a puzzle. A realization hit me just 20 steps later: puzzles are the perfect metaphor. To assemble the pieces, you need a table larger than the finished product. You need margin.

The Cost of Living Without Margin

This lesson on margin shows up in my life frequently. It happens when I try to fit too many tasks into one day or overload my week with projects, leaving no room for downtime or self-care. In the short term, the consequences of this busyness might not be obvious. But over time, a lack of margin can take a toll—on my health, my relationships, and my ability to focus on what truly matters.

Quiet Time: A Practice of Margin

I’ve found that my day becomes more productive when I begin with 15-20 minutes of quiet time with God on my front porch. This morning practice varies but often includes:

• Sitting in silence, listening for God’s still small voice
• Noticing moments of divine synchronicity in my life
• Offering intercessory prayer for others
• Shifting my focus from worries to gratitude
• Reading scripture or spiritually uplifting material

This sacred time is free from the noise of technology or the demands of my ego. However, I don’t always succeed in creating this margin. On the days I skip it, focusing instead on accomplishments, I end up paying the price—feeling disconnected and depleted.

Discernment: Choosing What Matters Most

As I contemplate my final months at Well, I’ve found that creating margin involves more than just scheduling rest—it’s about discernment. With so many wonderful ideas, I’m seeking clarity on what’s most meaningful for the whole community and letting go of what’s not essential right now. I know I can’t complete everything on my list, and that’s okay.

Finding the Balance Between Doing and Being

During a recent morning walk, I reflected on Maya Angelou’s powerful words:

“I’ve learned that people will forget what you said, people will forget what you did, but people will never forget how you made them feel.”

Her quote stopped me in my tracks. It made me think about the balance between doing things for guests and being truly present with them. Both are essential, but it’s the moments of presence that people remember most.

Wishing You the Gift of Margin

At Well, my hope is that every visitor feels held in sacred quiet. May you find enough silence to hear God’s still small voice, the gratitude to appreciate the message, and the presence to connect with yourself and others. May you create margins of rest to nourish your creativity and well-being.

Sandra H. O’Brien
Executive Director